Grieving with hypnosis
What is grief?
Grief describes the many thoughts and feelings we experience when we lose something or someone we love and value. Grief exists in many forms and may not necessarily involve the death of a person, although this is the best known cause of a broken heart. We may find that we mourn at the end of a relationship or friendship, lost a job or financial security, after a miscarriage, due to infertility, due to serious illness or disability our own or someone we love. We also mourn when our pet dies. The more central to our lives it is that we lost, the greater the feeling of loss and sadness.
Although the experience of grief is completely natural and normal and something that everyone goes through at some point in their lives, it is still extremely difficult and painful. Although we all go through the grief process, each individual experiences it in different ways.
The steps can include initial shock, denial and disbelief, followed by suffering, sadness, anger, guilt, anxiety, and finally recovery. But many people do not actually experience every single feeling that is said to be part of the sadness stages and very few people do not experience it in that order. It can even make you feel worse if you try to adapt your own feelings to this type of pattern and find that they do not match. It can lead to a feeling of isolation and guilt that you do not handle the grief "properly".
Many feel guilt over things they did or did not say or do. Feelings of anger and guilt are also common as well as increased anxiety and stress. You may suffer from anxiety about how to cope without the person you have lost, for your own health, for dying, for financial insecurity or for the loss of your place in the world. You may lose confidence and self-esteem or develop a fear of loneliness. You may also experience physical symptoms of grief such as loss of appetite, weight loss or weight gain, illness, fatigue, insomnia, increased susceptibility to illness. Hypnotherapy can give you positive suggestions that help manage anxiety, insomnia, deep sadness, depression and other symptoms of grief.
Hypnotherapy can reduce your feelings of guilt and help you find ways to deal with grief in the future. It can give you suggestions to encourage you and get you taken care of your physical health. Hypnosis can also help you start moving on to start living your life and learn to enjoy again without feeling guilty. It can help you find ways to remember the person you have lost and feel that it is part of you and your life. Hypnosis also helps to rebuild confidence when you have lost a job or financial security. You will also be helped to get rid of anxiety and uncertainty over the loss of a relationship or pet. Hypnosis helps you regain confidence, enthusiasm and motivation in your daily life.
What is chronic grief and how do I know if I am suffering from it?
Here are some of the symptoms:
1) Depression, you don't want to get out of bed in the morning
2) Not being able to sleep, you throw and twist all night
3) Feeling like nothing matters, "What's that good for?"
4) Always expect the worst, such as "When will the other happen?"
5) Overreact when you, a family member, close friend or pet have a medical symptom
6) Overreact when you hear news and think of the worst scenario before you even have all the facts
7) Don't trust others to help you, especially medical staff, therapists or other family members
What are the causes of chronic grief?
Most of us can handle one or two losses in our lives if we have a good strong family or social network to support. For many, chronic grief can begin early in life and take on many expressions. It is very difficult for young children to lose a close family member, a loving teacher, or one of the family's pets. In the past, it was common to "protect" children from the fact that someone had died. We have worked with a woman, we will call her Annika, whose mother died when she was only two years old. Her father and grandmother did not know how to talk about it with her and so they did not at all. A large cloud seemed to be hanging over the home and Annika was crying a lot but didn't know why she was crying. Except her mother wasn't there.
One day her mother was there and the next day she went to the hospital but she never came home again. Annika could intuitively feel that something was very wrong but no explanation was given, no comfort was offered. The huge family secret began to degenerate. The more she asked, "when will mom come home? “The more uncomfortable they became adults. So she learned to just depress her feelings, not ask questions and pretend that everything was normal even though it wasn't.
The chronic grief built up in the young Annika really exploded when the rest of the family died. She cried for several days without control. The father and grandparents had never handled their grief over Annika's mother's death and to make her stop crying they gave her candy and tried to stop her by saying "if you stop crying and become a happy little girl, we will buy you a new doll or a new dress, etc. ”
So there is a long list of unhealthy behavior patterns that began at the moment her mother died and continued throughout her life. These unhealthy ways of dealing with grief turned into chronic grief and then illness.
How does grief treatment work with hypnotherapy?
Through hypnosterapy we can go back to Annika's root cause for the grief and loss of the mother. During her sessions, she had immediate access to these long-repressed feelings and released this energy from her body. We have long ago discovered that simply by talking about the emotions can help the client understand what initiated the destructive patterns, but did not release them from the body. Even just crying that many people can do with a therapist works to some extent. But then the therapist does not go deep enough to release the symptoms that have become stuck in the body. Since repressed emotions are stored in the deepest parts of the subconscious mind, that is where we must go to resolve them.
Hypnotherapy can heal the body as well as the mind and the soul. To do so, the client will return to the original traumatic events. In Annika's case, it was the same day at the age of two, when her mother was very ill and went to the hospital. Annika was given a pillow that would symbolize the mother and in fact we could repair the damage by telling her mother the things she could never say. During this moment she talks like the little child would do because she is actually back to the age of two and here she can release and express the emotions from her body. She is no longer obliged to suppress these strong feelings and therefore they no longer have to cause her physical and emotional pain.
A very important part of the grieving process is letting go of anger which is very common in loss. Inner Health therapists use hypnosis techniques that release emotions from the body. We always encourage people to let go of these deep feelings physically, such as screaming in a pillow or crying.
In this way, the body is allowed to remove the poison from unprocessed traumatic experience. When a long-term weight disappears from the shoulders and the body begins to repair any damage that is present. Often we call these injuries stress-related illness.
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10 reasons to use hypnosis to process grief
Hypnosis can gently help you get through a time of grief in various ways, it can:
- help you find a time of peace and quiet where you can rest from your grief
- reduce the unbearable intensity of your grief
- help you to take care of yourself with compassion
- Organize your grief so that you can grieve at your own pace but not all the time
- Find a place of sadness in your life that does not overwhelm you
- Reconnect positive memories from the person you lost
- Help you enjoy your memories without being burdened by painful emotions
- allow yourself access to a sense of calm and strength
- help you move on with your life without feeling guilty
- give you the opportunity to do things