What is Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP)?
Neuro-Linguistic Programming is a set of skills that reveals the type of communication that is most important - inside and out.
For many, it is clear to offer a definition of NLP by showing what we mean by the words Neuro Linguistic and Programming. Here you go:
Neuro: With reference to the mind or brain, especially when it comes to how the state of mind (and body) affects communication and behavior. NLP teaches a structural way of seeing the mind and body condition, developing mental maps that show how things happen and how to change course.
Linguistic: means that our senses and body states are revealed in our language and non-verbal communication. Language is the tool we use to access the inner functions of the mind. Neuro Linguistic and Programming teach us how to access the information of the subconscious that would otherwise remain vague and ignorant.
Programming: This refers to the ability to change our state of mind and body. You're heard the term we live with an autopilot in our bodies, right? For someone trained in NLP, this would mean that you live according to your programming, which consists of ordinary thoughts, feelings, reactions, beliefs and traditions. Anyone trained in NLP knows how such programs are structured in the mind and how to access them through conversation (language) so that outdated programs and autopilot behaviors can change.
How does NLP work in real life?
During conversations, most of us fixate on words. What does this person mean and what should I say in return? It has long been established that words are the least meaningful aspect of communication, and they convey only 7% of meaning.
For example, when someone tells you that they are willing to help you organize a social meeting, but their voice is flat and their facial expressions look like you only invited them to one night because they had to and then it is obvious that something else is going on. Their words said YES, but the non-verbal communication - the other 93% - said otherwise.
What is NLP?
The other 93% of communication. NLP is a system for understanding and using the communication that really matters. Masters non-verbal communication and you become a master of communication!
But here's something even more interesting:
Most people do not realize that communication consists of so much more than interaction between people. There is a whole world of communication in your mind and body. The inner life - your mindset, attitude and feelings - is an active form of communication.
The important communication is not between people but within humans.
Internal communication is a strong color of Neuro-Linguistic Programming, originally known as the study of the structure of subjective experience. This is a nice way to say that NLP breaks down what is happening between your ears so that you can do something constructive with it. Here's a taste of how it works.
Let's say you have friends over for dinner and you feel extra excited. You're not sure why. Everything seems fine, but you feel like it's there. An NLP practitioner could find out how to create this tense state in a matter of moments. It's about how you communicate with yourself on the inside.
The NLP division of internal communication
Internal communication consists of images, sounds and emotions (NLP VAK model). Finding out what gives you tense emotions is about discovering which images and sounds suit the tense emotion. When you turn your attention inward and look for what you see and hear inside, you may find that you imagine things about dinner:
- You see your house completely messy when guests arrive.
- An inner voice that says, "They will hate your dinner."
- Looks disgusted at their faces as they eat.
- You sit alone in your house because no one shows up.
And so on. The point is: you were probably not aware of all the internal communication channels. If you feel tense over dinner, you probably imagine how bad it can go and respond to the unconscious images and sounds. The tense emotions reflect the other channels.
This is why Neuro-Linguistic Programming claims that humans are not broken. We simply respond to internal communication, whether we are aware of it or not. So if you imagine bad things to happen at your dinner party, you will feel tense.
Once you become aware of how to perfectly create a mindset you do not want, you can change it. Neuro-Linguistic Programming offers a large library of methods for changing our way of thinking when we identify it. Transforming internal communication so that you feel better is the programming aspect of NLP.
What can NLP help you with?
Be proficient in reading non-verbal clues
Increase your subconscious and sensory awareness
Master and control your thinking and emotions
Relieve fear and phobias
Motivate and strengthen
Develop the depth of personal and business relationships
Achieve success and achievement
The right to unwanted behavior in yourself and others
Communicate effectively and get information from others
Criticism of NLP?
The criticismwhich are often aimed atNLP is also about it not resting on a scientific basis and being poorly evaluated. But this is not true because there are many different ones research studies on NLP.